A lot has changed since the days of matchmaking and escorted evenings out. Dating online in the 21st century has taken many turns, among these is the emerging popularity of meeting partners online.
Online dating has many benefits. The shy dater can open up and get to know a person without having to deal with first-date jitters that often come from fear of the unknown. By the time he or she meets the potential paramour, they have already established a comfort level that allows the date to flow much more smoothly.
At the other end of the spectrum, social butterflies love online dating because of the number of fish in the sea. With so many people to choose from, booking several dates in a short amount of time is easy. Online dating allows you to be discreet, and it also enables you to be choosy. You choose partners based on common interests gleaned from dating profiles. This is an attractive alternative to approaching a potential mate in a bar going on looks alone.
As the online dating community has grown, so too has the number of vendors willing to help you promote yourself. Professional writers and photographers offer services to assist you with your dating profile. They hawk services to help you attract more hits to your online profile, which obviously helps lead to more dating options.
Dating Websites Vary.
Some require a fee to enjoy certain benefits, such as the ability to post a picture or short video. Other dating sites offer free private e-mail accounts and access to thousands of profiles without paying a dime. When engaging in online dating, however, it is important to exercise caution.
Remember that anyone with Internet access has access to these sites. It is virtually impossible for dating sites to weed out the bad seeds; the online dater must take care in setting up dates with strangers. When first meeting face-to-face, choose a public place. Don’t divulge too much information until you have a good idea of the person’s character. Be careful not to tell too much too soon. With a responsible attitude and an open mind, online dating can be fun, safe, and exciting.
Writing the Online Dating Profile: Be Honest!
I found that when dating online, a large percentage of men (and I hear that women do it too), lie about themselves in one way or another. Typically, it’s the height that most dishonest men will lie about, and I hear that women most often lie about their weight. In my profile, I said that I was partial to men who were 6’0″ or taller. As a result, I met more than a few men who said that they were 6’0″ tall, but upon meeting them, I found that they were usually much shorter. I can honestly say, that in the years that I was dating online, I must have met dozens of men, and in my estimation, a good 80% of them were completely dishonest with regard to their height.
Online dating sites are repetitive in their advice to post a picture with your profile. They’re right. You will most definitely get more responses to your profile if you add your picture, than you will if you don’t. The first time that I went online and did my profile, I didn’t post a picture, because (and this is a common excuse), I didn’t want anyone I knew to fluke onto my picture online. At that time, I posted the profile, and within minutes I received about 3 or 4 “smiles” or some sites call them “winks”. Okay, not amazing, right? About 2 weeks later, discouraged with the number and type or attention I was receiving, I posted a picture. The response was instant. I was swamped. The site administrators are definitely right. The profile with the picture gets much more attention than the no picture profile.
When you’re posting a profile picture, in gad’s name, PLEASE post a picture that is RECENT. Recent picture meaning within the last year or two. Too many times daters (men and women) post pictures of themselves that are 9 or 10 years old, taken way back when they were 40 or 50 pounds lighter, had more hair, and before they began to look like they do at present. Nothing is more frustrating than meeting someone who posted a picture of themselves that is older than dirt! Most times, they don’t even look like the same person. DO NOT POST AN ANCIENT PICTURE OF YOURSELF…EVER! Save yourself the embarrassment, and post a recent picture. I know women who have walked out on dates with men who were dishonest with regard to their physical description. And they should!
If you’re going to date online, does it right? Be honest, and include a RECENT picture with your profile. Nobody wants to see a 20-year-old picture of you expecting that that’s who they’ll be meeting. It’ll only get you a bad reaction when you do meet.